Well I can't belive I actually get to post this but I am 75% of the way through the adoptions forms. Last night DH and I worked through the questionaires. It was kinda fun. There is a part in the forms where you can have to rate your spouse on what you think about them. You know whether they are kind, abusive, sensitive etc. It was nice hearing about what DH thought of me and he stated it was nice to hear things from me. DH and I are always telling one another that we love each other; we both feel it is important to tell each other that all the time but it was so nice last night hearing something other than just I love you.
I was reading an article a while ago that stated those who have dealt with infertility and the heart aches it can bring actually increases the chances of a marriage working. I have learned more about DH in the last few years and I feel closer to him every day as we embark on this journey together and honestly this infertility journey has taught me more about myself than I ever thought and really how strong I can be.
Anyways........sorry about the sappy stuff LOL. Back to the adoption. Tonight we are going to finish the "Baby Order" sheet. Doesn't that sound crazy. But honestly it is a form with what you will and won't accept. Like Race, disabilities, whether the mother did drugs etc etc. The form is going to be actually easy to complete as we have been discussing over the last month and half about what we feel we can accept. Then we are into the essay questions. Man I feel like I am back in school or something.
Of course I am leaving the hardest thing to last. The dear birthmother letter. How do you write something asking a person to give me their child. I really don't know where to begin.......maybe I will end up procrastinating a little bit more when it comes to that.....who knows.
Ok ok so now that you have read my vent session I know you are all wondering who I want to punch in the face today.....well here goes. Yesterday I had to go meet my new Dr. and my appointment was at 2 and I didn't get in until 2:45 so as you can guess I want to punch my Dr. Office in the face. I can't be late for the appointment but it is okay with them to be late???? I should mention the clinic was DEAD......but I guess I have nothing better to do so it is okay for them to waste my time.......man I can't stand that.
Well hope you all have a fantastic day
Stacey
Yay!! This means 75% closer to your baby!! So glad things are progressing so well. And yes, IF solidified our marriage too...I know that if another life crisis strikes...my DH will be right by my side. I wish you all the best and many kleenex as you write your birth mom letter...I can't imagine how tough this would be. I did right a letter to our donor but that's different but even that was tough. But you'll get through it and hope you find the process cathartic.
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